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Dear Abby: I’ve always been unlucky in love and feel like I just can’t put myself out there again

DEAR ABBY: I have been unlucky in love ever since I started dating, and I’m feeling like I just can’t put myself out there again. My last relationship looked promising — I even saw a wedding on the horizon — but my partner cheated on me, and it all fell apart. Now I’m scared. This is just the latest in a long string of bad relationships. How can I keep dating if I’m feeling so hopeless? Am I just not cut out for the “married with 2.5 kids” life? — FAILURE IN OREGON
DEAR FAILURE: Considering your mindset, I’m not sure you should be dating right now. Your time might be better spent trying to figure out what went wrong in each of those failed relationships, because your problem may not be the kind of men you are attracting, but those you are attracted TO.
If there are common denominators among those men in your past, it would benefit you to recognize what they are so you won’t be hurt again. In the meantime, occupy yourself with friends and activities you enjoy. It’s an effective way to combat depression, and it may also give you an opportunity to make some new acquaintances.
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